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Gifts for Parents and Helpers

A handwritten note does most of the work. These are the things to hand over with it.

22 products, each chosen by I Do with a note on why.

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  • Embroidered Handkerchiefs (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Embroidered Wedding Handkerchiefs, Mother and Father Set

    A small embroidered handkerchief for each parent, given with a handwritten note the morning of.

    ~$10 (approximate)

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  • Cotton Handkerchiefs (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: RDS Hankytex Cotton Handkerchiefs, 6 Pack

    Grooms cry at the first look and fathers at the vows, and a silk pocket square is decorative.

    ~$10 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Cotton Handkerchiefs (opens in a new tab)
  • Blank Cream Note Cards (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Goefun Cream Flat Note Cards with Envelopes, 5 x 7, 100 Pack

    A letter to each other on the morning of the wedding is the memory couples mention most.

    ~$25 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Blank Cream Note Cards (opens in a new tab)
  • Engraved Parent Frame (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Lifetime Creations Engraved 5x7 Wood Frame

    One frame per household, engraved with your names and the date, nothing more.

    With your names and message

    ~$30 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Engraved Parent Frame (opens in a new tab)
  • Best Man Whiskey Decanter Set (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Engraved Whiskey Decanter with Glasses and Box

    The tier-above gift for the best man, or a thank-you for a father: a decanter and glasses engraved with his…

    With his name and initials

    ~$90 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Best Man Whiskey Decanter Set (opens in a new tab)
  • Robes for the Mothers (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Mother of the Bride and Groom Satin Robes, Pair

    The mothers are in the getting-ready photos too.

    ~$30 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Robes for the Mothers (opens in a new tab)
  • Mother of the Bride Frame (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Mother of the Bride Picture Frame

    A frame for the photo of the two of you on the day, given the week after.

    ~$15 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Mother of the Bride Frame (opens in a new tab)
  • Father of the Groom Glass Set (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Engraved Whiskey Glass and Coaster Set

    A whiskey glass and coaster engraved for the father of the groom.

    ~$30 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Father of the Groom Glass Set (opens in a new tab)
  • Whiskey Stones and Glasses Set (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Whiskey Stones Gift Set with Two Glasses

    A boxed set of chilling stones and two glasses: a father or best man gift with a lot of happy owners.

    ~$30 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Whiskey Stones and Glasses Set (opens in a new tab)

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Don't forget, nothing to buy

  • A professional officiant is tipped, not gifted; the gift is for the friend who got ordained.
  • Ushers, readers and the friend who ran the timeline get a note and something small.

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  • Engraved Officiant Pen (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Cross Bailey Engraved Ballpoint Pen

    For the friend who got ordained and spent twenty hours writing your ceremony.

    With your names and message

    ~$75 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Engraved Officiant Pen (opens in a new tab)
  • Officiant Binder (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Officiant Ceremony Book with Pen

    A friend officiating otherwise reads the ceremony off a phone in every photo.

    ~$15 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Officiant Binder (opens in a new tab)
  • Officiant Thank-You Card (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Thank You for Marrying Us Card

    For the friend who got ordained.

    ~$5 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Officiant Thank-You Card (opens in a new tab)

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  • Ring Security Kit (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Ring Bearer Security Set with Ring Box

    A badge, dark glasses, an earpiece and a lockable case for the decoy rings.

    ~$20 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Ring Security Kit (opens in a new tab)
  • Kids' Activity Books (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Gueevin Wedding Coloring Books with Crayons Set

    One at each child's seat is the single thing every kids-at-weddings guide agrees on: it keeps the ceremony qu.

    ~$25 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Kids' Activity Books (opens in a new tab)
  • Kids' Bow Tie and Suspenders (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Kids' Suspenders and Bow Tie Set

    A matching bow tie and suspenders in the wedding colour.

    ~$10 (approximate)

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  • LEGO Set for the Ring Bearer (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: LEGO Classic Medium Creative Brick Box, 484 Pieces

    What a six to nine year old actually wants.

    ~$35 (approximate)

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  • Another option

    DUPLO Set for Little Ones (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: LEGO DUPLO Brick Box, 65 Pieces

    The big-brick version for a ring bearer or flower girl under four, with no small parts.

    ~$30 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: DUPLO Set for Little Ones (opens in a new tab)
  • Flower Girl Initial Bracelet (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Initial Pearl Bracelet for Girls, Gift Boxed

    A small pearl bracelet with her initial, boxed so it feels like a real present.

    Can carry her initials

    ~$10 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Flower Girl Initial Bracelet (opens in a new tab)
  • Mess-Free Activity Pad (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: Melissa & Doug Water Wow Animal Antics Pad

    Water-reveal colouring with a refillable pen, so there is nothing to spill on a dress or a pew.

    ~$15 (approximate)

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  • Flower Girl Crown (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: DreamLily Camellia Flower Crown, Champagne

    A faux flower crown that makes her look like part of the wedding party.

    ~$15 (approximate)

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  • Flower Girl Book (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: The Most Special Flower Girl (picture book)

    How you ask a four-year-old, and it explains the day to her so the aisle is not a surprise.

    ~$5 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Flower Girl Book (opens in a new tab)
  • Ring Bearer Book (opens Amazon in a new tab)

    Our pick: The Best Ever Ring Bearer (picture book)

    The ring bearer's version: what his job is, and that the rings he carries are probably fake.

    ~$10 (approximate)

    View on Amazon: Ring Bearer Book (opens in a new tab)

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